It’s that wonderful time of the year! Which means family time, which means hoping family know the importance of pronouns and respecting them.

Even if you aren’t seeing your family face to face odds are you’re interacting with them in one way or another. Which as a Trans/Non-binary (Enby) person means maybe a little more frustration and a lot more work.

In a perfect world everyone would get the concept of pronouns and respecting them, but let’s face it’s not always the case, but YOUR PRONOUNS MATTER and it’s worth standing up for them.

Allies! This is your time to step-in and help. You can make the all the difference! Not only you setting an example, but also being willing to educate and speak up for other’s.

Even that best-intentioned relative that still loves you but just does not grasp pronouns can be a new level of “URGGGGG!” And it’s frustrating to have to make every conversation an education lesson, especially when it’s already enough stress of the holiday season…I get it! This is where a good ally can make all the difference.

Also, wear your pronoun pins. Have tough conversations. You deserve to be recognized as who you truly are!

Parents of those kiddos, don’t hold back on sending those cards out! I’ve seen so many moms debate it, just not wanting to “cause an issue” or whatnot. Your child is living out, if they don’t want to hide, don’t hide yourself in doing so. Give those family the updates and be that warrior protector parent you are. Don’t feel like you need to hide your true identity of your child or owe explanations. Aka, don’t feel like you need to attach “warning letters” before sending out that family picture. You also don’t need to dance around other people’s outdated opinions. If they are truly family, they Love You and Your Children and will Accept and support just as you have! If they have questions, let them call you up and ask. Open that door for your kid and to grow that support.

It may be a growing process on everyone’s parts and slip ups happen. What matters is the trying and the intention, that will make the world of difference.

A friend of mine sent me this poem that was making its rounds on Facebook. It came from Theo Lorenz’s Twitter–

(*Ignore the typo “cold” = “could”)

My Cis friend even cried just reading it. Now just imagine what power proper pronouns from all your family could do as a Enby/Trans person! That’s my “Grown-up Christmas Wish.“

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